Congrats on your engagement! That’s the fun and exciting part! Now, comes the work. It’s still fun and exciting, though! You’ve got your wedding checklist and you’re ready to dive into the planning process. Before you get into all of the details though, you want to make sure that you’re approaching this the right way.
Whether you are choosing to plan this alone (we don’t recommend this), with your partner, with your entire family (assign duties), or just you and your wedding planner, there are a few things you should definitely keep in mind in the months leading up to your wedding.
- Trust Your Wedding Vendors
Wedding vendors are professionals and have helped countless couples create their perfect wedding day. The more you trust the pros you are hiring to assist you, the more enjoyable this process will be. If you take the time to research your vendors and know that you’ve picked the very best, let them do their jobs. They want to do the best they can to make you happy. At least all the vendors that we know.
2. Be Patient
It’s completely understandable that you want your day to be perfect but keep in mind that your venue and your vendors are probably working with a few different couples. Trust in the fact that your vendors are dedicated to making you happy and a little kindness, patience, and respect will ensure your planning goes more smoothly. In general, set realistic expectations. Just because you’re planning at 3 am, doesn’t mean you’re planner is up and ready to answer your questions. So remember boundaries.
3. It’s a Learning Process
There’s a lot that happens behind the scenes that couples don’t know about and that’s actually a good thing. Planning a wedding is no easy feat and there is always a chance that something could go wrong (but planning well in advance minimizes that). Don’t try and keep track of every little detail during the planning process, especially if people are already tasked with taking care of certain things. You need to focus on enjoying your day and not just planning the day. Remember, this is one of the biggest, most fun parties you’ll ever have. Everyone you know and love will be there. So don’t get lost in the details and remember this is simply a celebration of your love!
- Your Wedding, Your Way
Remember, the two of you are entering this marriage and it’s important that you both make decisions about your big day. Don’t let other people take over the planning process and deter you from doing things that make you happy as a couple either. This day is about the two of you, not other people. So if you want to hear only Country music all night, because that’s what you want, so be it. This is your night!
- Planning is Stressful
Fighting during the planning process is not a sign that you shouldn’t get married. There is a lot of pressure and stress involved with planning a wedding so if you do fight, take a breather, remember why you’re getting married, and pick things up again when you’re both calm.
- You Don’t Have to Follow Traditions
If there are certain aspects of a traditional wedding that you simply can’t get on board with, that’s totally fine! There is absolutely no rule that says you need to have the first dance, cut a cake, or throw your bouquet. This is your day! Make it your own.
- What Really Matters
You don’t need to spend money to impress your guests. Your wedding is about you and your partner coming together. A beautiful ceremony or a meaningful first dance is something money can’t buy so don’t forget about these important moments as you plan your wedding. Your guests love you and want to be there to celebrate with you. Don’t lose sight of that.
Remember to take a break from the planning if it all gets too much. This is supposed to be a wonderful and enjoyable time in your life, so make sure that you aren’t losing sight of what’s important as you plan your wedding.
We hope this has been helpful. As always, contact us if you have any questions or feedback!
