When it comes to planning a wedding, quinceanera or event, one thing is for sure, it's a lot of work! There are numerous details and things to consider. Beyond the details, you have to choose the best vendors from a list of sometimes hundreds of wedding and event vendors. However, sometimes, you may have a friend or family member, who's a DJ, or runs a photo booth business, a wedding planner or coordinator, a photographer, etc. It's definitely great to know someone in the business! You can discuss your event with them and get their advice on things. This is certainly a great way to lessen your stress and help you be sure to hire the best vendors possible, for your event! However, the question that many friends of wedding or event vendors struggle with, is "Should I hire my friend/family member, to do my wedding/event?" The answer is actually not too easy to answer. Let's discuss this.
In order to thoroughly answer whether you should hire a friend or family member to work at your wedding, you should answer a few questions, first. Here are a few questions and things to consider.
1. Why are you hiring them?
This seems like an easy question to answer, but be truly honest with your answer. Are you hiring him/her because you truly value and respect their work? If you do, are you willing to pay their normal rates that they would charge any client? If not, then perhaps you may not value their work as much as they do. Wedding and event professionals work hard and put in countless hours, just to be sure your wedding/event goes just as you want it to!
2. Do you want a discount?
If you're hiring your friend or family member, simply because you want a great price, or even, FREE, here are some things to think about. There is a lot of preparation involved for any event. For us, we often put in about 30 hours of prep work for every event! The day of the event is also many more hours then just the hours your hired us for. A 4 hour event where we provide a DJ, only, usually requires a 2 hour setup and 1 hour breakdown, not to mention drive time. If we're providing other services, such as a photo booth, games, or extensive lighting, we have to arrive about 3 hours before. So when you hire any wedding professional, remember that all the work you don't see, factors into their current, normal price.
3. How close are they to you?
This last point is one thing that many people don't think about. Perhaps you're willing to pay their normal rates and you truly value their work. That's great! However, if this person is your close friend or family member, do you really want them to work at your event, or would you rather them attend as a guest? Working at an event as a wedding professional is far different then attending an event as a guest. Though working or attending is enjoyable for wedding pros, there is an obvious difference between the two. Do you want your friend or family member to enjoy the event, as a guest, like the rest of your guests? Would you rather have them dancing out there with you, or taking pictures with you, versus behind the DJ booth, coordinating or taking the pictures?
Overall, the choice to hire your friend or family member to work your event is yours, of course. These are just a few things to consider, before asking him/her. As wedding and event professionals, this situation comes up a lot, for us. We're often booked up to 12 months in advance, so most of the time, even if we wanted to, we're booked. I will say that if it's a close friend or family member, we'd always much rather be invited as a guest, than to work, but that's our preference. Other vendors may have a different opinion.
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We've taken our decades of experience and compiled it into a few helpful articles, to help you plan your wedding or event!